Dh took a long weekend

This last weekend and we went traveling, blog to be posted on it soon. We didn’t go far, and we went on a shoestring using coupons, free camping, an annual pass, plus and loyalty cards on fuel. The trip was fun, but it made dh want to retire asap all the much more. I am so ready for him to, but the budget is not, at least not the way we want to retire.

Anyway, as we were driving home from errands yesterday we started discussing how blessed we have been during our life, and how with hard work and determination we have done so much more than many people will ever do in their life simply because of the choices they make.

Dh is one of 4 kids and I am one of two, we are both the oldest children in our families and the difference in our life style and those of our siblings is so huge. We, in our families, are the “Joneses” but not because of anything that has ever been handed to us.

There have been times in our life we have had a $.19 one pound bag of beans to feed the two of us on for a month so we could make certain our baby ate properly. We’ve been unemployed more times than I am comfortable with, and there was a time my husband was working one full time job and four part time jobs at the same time he was going back to school while I baby sat numerous children and was an extreme couponer to just make ends meet.

Murphy has been brutal to us at times, and God has been so wonderful at others. We discussed all this and more, and both feel we have a great adventure still laying before us, but if it should all end tomorrow we have our memories and no one can take those.

Why do I tell you this? Because I would like to challenge all of you, especially those who are really struggling to take the time out this weekend to discuss with your family all the blessings you have had as well. Once you start looking back, I think you will find you have had a very good life, and you too have a great adventure still ahead of you.

I’ll throw my two cents in as well

We have been in more than one situation where a unique cet of circumstances aligned, and our BEF was not enough to cover a sudden unexpected occurrence. We had to get really really creative in order to get out of those situations without going into debt. Some were so serious that we actually put “get a line of credit” on the table as an option. We were so determined not to do that, that were able solve our problems without establishing new lines of credit. But I can think of at least two (more if I had longer to think) occasions where we wouldn’t have even thought about what to do if we had an open line of credit available to us. There would have been no need for the stress and strain involved in trying to find another way. I know we all think that won’t happen to us, but Murphy is an opportunist of the worst kind.
Good luck!

I would also vote in favor of “not a good idea”

Most folks here know that we’re currently farming for a living, but I used to be a mortgage lender (yes, I worked for the Evil Financial Empire back in the day). So this kind of question came up for us all the time. Here’s why I think this is a poor idea, and what you can do instead:

First, if the sole goal of your getting the credit card is to bump your credit score, it’s not quite that simple. The credit score is a compilation of many different aspects of your borrowing history over time, and simply getting one card won’t change it much, particularly while the card is still relatively new. The kinds of changes which bump folks from one “loan package” bracket to another are large enough that any one card won’t make the difference. I’d be more interested in what your current score was, and what sorts of financial events or borrowing history created the score. You didn’t mention if you had already checked your credit score, and if so, what it was. I haven’t done mortgage lending for awhile (I was most involved in the industry prior to 2005), but we’d roughly rank credit scores as follows:
-above 750 and the rest of the loan package looks good, give them the best loan package we had
-between 600-650 but the rest of the loan package looks good, give them near the best
-between 600-650 and the rest of the loan package is iffy, give them a higher interest rate
-less than 600, that loan package had better be stellar to get any loan at all. Here is where the reasons behind a credit score would start to matter. If it was a single catastrophic event, like a medical bankruptcy (ie, they went into the red because of medical issues), and that event is over and done with and they’re clawing their way back out, that was handled one way. But if the credit score shows a lifelong history of poor spending decisions and spending habits, they were given the “clean up your financial health” speech and sent on their way. So getting a credit card would only be a drop in the bucket for how we ranked that score.

Secondly, the MUCH bigger issue for us was the debt to income ratio. That ratio actually had two separate but related calculations. First, we looked at just the proposed mortgage payment, compared to total income. We wanted to see that mortgage payment less than 28% of the total income. So for instance, if your monthly income was $5000, your mortgage payment needed to be less than $1400. The higher that ratio went, the higher the interest rate went. Secondly, we also looked at ALL debt, compared to total income. Here again is where having a payment (or even a potential payment) on a credit card could sink you. We wanted to see a ratio of all debt (mortgage + any debt bills of any kind) well under 50% of the total income. So in our $5000/month example above, with a mortgage payment of $1400, you could only have another $1100 in debt. And here’s the kicker. Many lenders do not look at what your credit card payment CURRENTLY is. They look at what your credit card payment COULD be, if you maxed out the borrowed credit. This is why paying down the card every month won’t help you. We would look at what your total balance could be on that card, figure what the total payment could be, and use THAT figure to calculate your total possible debt payment. The bigger the card, the bigger that payment, regardless of whether you actually paid it off every month. Why? Because banks know that Mr. Murphy is alive and well, and that even when folks intend to pay off the balance every month, it’s all too easy to have something come along to trip up that good intention and result in a balance on that card. So, getting a card with the intention of paying it down every month won’t help you at all, and could be the difference between a good loan package and a poor one.

Finally, I’d emphasize that ALL of us here had good intentions when we got our various credit cards. Yet here we are, because life happens and credit cards get away from us. They’re wily little creatures, very slippery, and they have a life of their own. You’re in a very large group of “good-intentions” folks when you say you’ll pay down the card balance every month. Real world records would indicate that a very large percentage of that well-intentioned group can’t or don’t live up to that promise. At which point the credit card shows itself for what it is, not a tool for your benefit, but a snake in your hand that is looking for ways to bite you. Let credit card payback statistics demonstrate to you that many folks start off with good intentions, but can’t maintain them. Don’t repeat their mistake.

If I were still a mortgage lender, and you came to me and said you wanted to strengthen your position to get a really good loan package at some point in the future, here’s the advice I’d give:
– pay off that $20K debt, as fast as you can
– having zero in savings will SINK any loan application you try to turn in. That single factor right there is the biggest red flag I see. Even if you came to me with a great loan package and a great credit score, that zero in savings would force me to shove your application into the higher risk category. No savings = no safety net, so anything unexpected MUST become a debt because you didn’t have the resources to pay for it from savings. Start padding that savings account as much as you can, in tandem with paying down the debt.

How do you spend cash wisely?

The babysitting gig looks like it’s going to start earlier than originally planned, she’s doing a part time back to work stint next week which will put about $120 in my pocket.
On the one hand, this would cover gas in the cars for the week.
On the other hand, it would add to our severely depleted BS1 and take money at
On the other hand, it would go a long way to getting one of our credit cards “current” (Walmart, the “lateness” is all late fees, we’re actually current on the required minimum base payment), or paying off other credit cards.
It’s not this $120 per se that I am stressing over (honestly, this one is likely going to go towards gas for the cars.) It’s what do I do going forward? I don’t want to get to the end of a month, realize I earned $800 in cash and have nothing to show for it (debt reduction or BEF)
I’m not very good at planning my cash spending, especially when it comes in dribs and drabs.
What do you all do?

Good morning!

I’ve seen suggestions to save 15 to 20 times whatever income you’ll in retirement. So if you think you’ll need $30,000 per year, you’ll need to save $450,000 to $600,000 by retirement. But that’s just a base calculation to get you started…

And remember, Financial independence is where the interest your money earns is greater than your expenses, no matter where/when that may be.
If your expenses are $30,000/year, and you can get 8% on your savings, then you’d need $375,000 invested. If you can get by on $20,000, then you’d only need $250,000 at that same 8% in order to be Financially Independent. If you are able to save that amount by age 50, then you’d be FI, and you can choose to work, or retire – your choice.

Retirement Question????

Hi all, I am wondering if some of you out there can give some retirement advice and information.
Basically, I am wondering when one knows that they have enough to retire. What advice/formulas, books or experts (besides DR) have you been using to make that decision. One big concern will be Health insurance.

My DH and I are still in our 40’s, but we have been saving since we left college and have never really carried a debt outside our mortgage. We have money saved for retirement, investments, and kids college. Our only debt is our mortgage which has an excellent rate (less than 3%) and we owe less than 30% of its value.

I’m just wondering how to know when enough is enough and what our goals should be.


I am really trying to stay positive and live in gratitude

I am grateful that we are able to find the money to cover all these emergencies lately. I am.

But the other part of me is going: geez. The $2,500 I spent buying the 4Runner when the Saturn died, I could have paid off Comerica. The $500 deductible from the accident? Could have paid off Capital One (almost.) The $450 I’m now going to have to spend covering DS’s TMobile stunt (even if he pays for it eventually)? Could have paid off WalMart.

So the point of this is (besides me whining): It’s really like Dave says! He uses the example if your kid needed a life or death operation and you had to come up with $5k, you’d come up with the money. But we fail to be THAT (gazelle) INTENSE when it comes to getting out of debt.

These past few months have shown me that I need to be more proactive about finding another income stream. The child care gig is just not going to cut it. I get that they are freaking out at the idea of spending $800 a month, but I can’t continue to keep my life on hold for them if they’re not going to commit to the 20 hours a week like they said they were.

So I’ve been hitting the cyber streets applying for jobs and more child care gigs.

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